Being in a relationship, in general, is hard enough but when it comes to LDR or Long Distance Relationship, it becomes harder. If you are in this situation, you probably know what I’m saying. You don’t get to see your partner or be able to do the little things that every couple seem to enjoy. But there’s also a positive side in all this misery, LDR teaches you a lot of things that can help you in life.
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Let’s see what you can learn from Long-Distance couples…
1. Be Patience –
LDR couples spend a lot of time away from each other and waiting for the moment when they will meet. In life too, you have or wait for things to happen and success to come. So, being in a relationship where you constantly practice this habit is going to make you a pro at being patient. You learn to spend your time by doing other things and keeping yourself busy.
Also, people who are in a normal relationship tend to get clingy and all over each other but it is not possible in this relation. Sometimes when you call them, they might be busy at work so you learn to wait and perseverance your way out. People avoid these small issues in an LDR relationship.
2. Being Independent –
Being with someone special makes you dependent on them because of a sense of security. I’m not saying it is bad but leaning on someone else too much can make you lazy and the opposite of care-free. So having a boyfriend or girlfriend who lives far away from reach makes you strong enough to face your troubles by yourself and make you strong-willed too.
3. Rock-Hard Mentality –
This kind of relationship not only makes you responsible but also going to make you strong mentally. Some people quit their relationship after their other half moved to a further city but you didn’t, you made it work. Being away from them has made you strong on the inside and now you know you can face any hurdles of life easily.
4. You Appreciate People –
Now you know that how much people who love you mean to you. Being apart from him/her has taught you to be warmer towards your family and friends. The values you get with them is not enough because it can go always as easy as it comes, so now you try to appreciate them.
5. Communications and Expressing Self –
Words are the only keys to keep an LDR alive. Other couples who live together don’t get the importance of communication and sharing feelings with each other, which can trigger some problem But because you guys don’t get to express compassion physically, you chose the right words to do that for you. Every email, online text and calls you make to them help you to fill the void of their being not present by your side, make them feel important and loved.
6. Importance of A Hobby –
You often spend time alone at work or home, so my advice is that you try to keep yourself entertained. Maybe you start a new hobby like drawing, knitting or handcraft etc. You now spend time doing what you enjoy and being productive too. Many people who are in normal relationship urges to spend some alone time, but you can get it easily and do what you love.
7. Optimism –
You have spent more than enough time away from the person you love, oh so dearly. But still, that didn’t break you or made you upset, you are waiting for the day you will get the chance to meet him/her. It is called being optimistic. You now have learnt to find ways to solve any problems and situations in your relationship.
8. Reliability & Trust –
Trust is very important in every relationship, especially in yours. You just have to have a leap of faith and trust that they won’t do anything to break your belief. To do the same you have to stay reliable too and respect their trust. It is LDR that teaches you how to be reliable and trust one another.
9. Enjoying The Little Things –
Because you don’t get to experience their presence, when they are with you make sure that you appreciate every little thing. Like a hug or few stolen kisses and all of that cute romantic things, for which you crave. Doing little things together will make your bond stronger.
10. Understanding –
Yes, it hurts sometimes that you cannot do the same thing that every people can do with their special one. But you have learnt to be okay with it. You are more understanding of the fact and towards life too. And this is another plus point of being in a long-distance relationship.
Many people go to couple counselling to learn about these little things about the relationship. So, next time if anyone comes and tells you that you are missing out on a real love experience, be sure to give them a good comeback.