You’re engaged! Now is the time to start planning your wedding, but what if you’re not excited about it or even hate it? First of all, you’re not alone. This is how many couples feel about planning a wedding, and there are many reasons for this.
From the cost of the wedding to having all your family together to feeling like your wedding has to be perfect, it’s easy to see why engaged couples often think it over, anxious, and even depressed before the wedding.
What can I do to enjoy planning my wedding?
Tell someone how you feel
It’s important to talk about how you feel with family, friends you trust, or mental health professionals. Talking to someone can help you get good advice, but it’s also an excellent way to express your anger and fears instead of keeping them inside. Yes, if you’re going to see a mental health professional. You can go by yourself, with your partner, or with both! Getting help from a mental health professional who can teach you how to deal with your feelings better is a great way to get through the “blues” before your wedding.
Delegate responsibilities
If you like to be in charge, this one might be hard for you, but it’s essential to ease the stress of wedding planning. Give tasks to your partner, wedding party, and trusted family and friends. They care about you and would be thrilled to help you plan for such a big and important day.
Try to have fun
Write down all the things about your wedding that make you happy. No matter if it’s music, specialty drinks, or something else. Put those things at the top of your list and do them first to get yourself in a better mood. Focus on things you enjoy doing and things that are important to you, and then try to delegate the rest.
Breaks in the plan
Don’t spend all your time doing things related to the wedding. Make time for (or schedule, if that helps) time alone to do things that have nothing to do with your wedding. Take a walk, go out to dinner, paint, or read something you enjoy. Plan time with your partner when you won’t discuss the wedding. You could go to that pottery class you’ve been putting off, or you could watch a movie.
How can I feel ready, so my wedding day doesn’t stress me?
Hire a coordinator for the big day
Hire a day-of coordinator if your budget will allow it. They cost between $600 and $2,500, varying from place to place. Day-of coordinators are in charge of making and managing plans for logistics and timelines. They are there on your wedding day to ensure everything goes as planned.
Find ways to deal with stress before the wedding day
Find out what makes you feel good when you’re stressed out before your wedding. Research ways to deal with anxiety and try them out ahead of time. Maybe it’s sitting still and quiet for 20 minutes to think. Or you are having a big dance party with all your favorite songs and writing in a diary with a cup of tea. Find out what makes you happy and calm, and ensure you do that at some point on your wedding day.
Remember to eat
Sometimes, when we’re nervous or excited, we forget to eat breakfast, or we get butterflies and forget, but if you plan the night before, this won’t happen. If you’re staying in a hotel, order room service the night before, or if you’re at a house, go grocery shopping to have a hearty breakfast in the morning. The best wedding-day breakfast should have plenty of protein and not too many greasy foods. A hard-boiled egg, granola, and fruit in yogurt will keep you full and give you energy.
Spend time with your friends
Include the people you think will help you the most on the morning of your wedding. If you don’t want them there, don’t feel you have to invite your whole family to the place you are preparing. The goal is for you to feel loved and cared for, so choose your group carefully. Choose someone in the room with you (maybe a bridesmaid) to be the go-to person for all wedding questions and concerns. So you can think about how happy and excited you are!
Conclusion
Getting married is an extensive choice, and when you make a significant choice, you can feel a lot of nerves. Remember that it’s normal to feel worried, upset, or depressed before your wedding. Talk to friends, family, and mental health professionals if you feel like you have too much on your plate. They can help ease your worries and help you find healthy ways to deal with stress.
